[curiousagain]

I use to think there were certain rules that had to be followed for a marriage to work. After having most of those fail to prevent failure and seeing all sorts of marriages that work or don't work as the case may be; I figure if something works for you, stick with it, and if it doesn't try something different.

I pretty much have the same philosophy about swinging at this point. As JNCC said, some are in it as a bonding experience or an experience to share together. Some are in it as a substitute for cheating. Some are in it for a little of both. Whatever floats your boat is fine with me as long as it doesn't affect my paycheck, my love life, or my sex life.

Personally, I can't, don't, and won't endorse or assist cheating for all of the obvious and previously explained reasons. But, there are those who do. In fact, I think most non swingers tolerate cheating as long as it isn't their spouse doing it, whereas most non swingers think swingers are "doing a bad thing". Most swingers abhor cheating, but then some don't care.

To each his own. As long as someone doesn't try to involve me in something I don't want to be involved in, I've become pretty tolerant of others actions.
But, there is the key, as long as they don't try to involve me against my will.
I hear a lot about the cheating single males. I think most of them involved in the net are on swing sites cause they're looking for sex. The cheating females involved in the net are on vanilla dating sites because they are looking for sex AND a replacement for their present spouse.

None of us are gonna change the world. At some point you have to say "just leave me out of it". As I have stated in the past, any time I have been told by a female that she and her husband "have an open marriage" or she has "permission" I simply ask if that means it would be OK for me to clear it with him personally. To date, without exception, they have been gone faster than a paycheck.