 Re: Wife say's no way?
Welcome from Oklahoma, Mr. Hun! We're glad you've joined us and hope the folks here can help. Please stop by our Introductions Forum and tell us more about yourselves. We hope you and your wife will join the discussions.
The one thing that strikes me about your question is that you seem to fear asking your wife. The first thing you need to eliminate is that fear. Communication is the most important ingredient in swinging. If you can't talk to your wife about ANY subject, it's unlikely you'll be successful in swinging.
Tell her that you'd like to have discussions with her about sex but are afraid she'll get angry if you bring it up. When Mrs. Alura and I first met, we made the agreement that we would never get angry at any question and would always answer it honestly and completely. Walking away in a huff would not be acceptable.
Once that's done, you might proceed by asking her if she'd like to "spice up your sex life" by role playing, toys, a weekend in a hotel, etc., etc. Don't phrase your questions so they can be answered with "Yes" or "No." Your goal is more to get her talking than to get simple answers. An example: "Sweetheart, how do you feel about spicing up our sex life?" (or any other subject.) If she's open to it, consider bringing her here to research some ideas.
If you can get the communication flowing the juices will soon follow and you'll thank your lucky stars for the day you surfed in here.
Good Luck!
Alura
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