[MrkLin]

We originally got into this to try to live out a few fantasies for her. Her first husband was the classic "Minuteman" and as a result she was quite often left frustrated. She started fantasizing about another man in the room to take over when hubby was finished, and that helped her to orgasm before he was done. That fantasy morphed into a fantasy of 5-7 men taking her, and has stayed with her for years. To make a long story shorter, we gave the MFM thing a try and we both loved it. I draw my excitement from hers, and I just love to see her enjoy herself.

After about 9 years of this, she started thinking about watching me with another woman. I had always maintained this was not necessary, I was happy with things as they were, but I wasn't going to argue about it - lol. To make an even longer story shorter, we eventually did meet a couple from out of town, and shared a hotel room with them. We talked it over in detail before we made arrangements with the other couple, and let them know this would be a first for us. They understood completely, and had in fact gotten into the lifestyle in much the same way. All four of us were nervous as hell, but as a result of that we were all able to take things slowly and have a very good time. Thanks Gary and Michelle - you know who you are!

The result was a complete success for all four of us. My wife found it funny that she actually felt a sense of pride in my performance with the other woman. I thought it was hilarious. She actually said, "Listening to her respond to what you were doing to her made me proud of you." I don't think we've both laughed that hard together in ages - lol.

Well, enough tooting my own horn. That was about 4 years ago, and we've been meeting couples exclusively ever since. There is no jealousy at all, and she found that she prefers to swing in separate rooms, but only because she's easily distracted by sound during sex, and finds herself paying more attention to what others in the room are doing than what's happening to her. Even when we're alone she wants it quiet - no music, TV, or conversation unless I'm describing a fantasy to her. Our joke is that she's never heard the soundtrack to any of our adult movies.

We both play separately or together, and in fact she had a weekly Wednesday thing with a male friend of hers when I was working swing shift - no pun intended. She was always home when I got home from work, and never failed to be nude and extremely excited waiting for me to get home. I basically took over where her friend had left off, and it fueled more than one prolonged bout of exquisite lovemaking. The three of us got together a couple of times, and needless to say she had a blast - or two, as the case may be. That arrangement came to an end when he found a girlfriend who wasn't interested in the lifestyle at all. She knows about him and my wife, but that was in the past and everyone is happy today.

I have played alone with a few female friends, to include one time at a friend's house when my wife stayed downstairs knitting. She listened to the whole thing, not that she could miss it, and got excited herself. We got home and I was basically attacked as soon as we got in the door. She's out of town until tomorrow evening, and I played with a couple last night with her prior consent (Heck, I was talking to her on the phone while driving to their place - lol.) She has been thinking about what I told her when I got home ever since and can't wait to get home tomorrow and attack me.

It's a tough life, but I can handle it - lol.

I guess my point is the jealousy thing is a non-issue for us. We communicate with each other very well, and we respect each other's wishes. There are a few ladies she isn't comfortable with me playing with, and I respect that even if I don't agree with her reasoning. There are a few men I don't particularly find to be good candidates, and she respects my opinion as well. We only play with the other's knowledge. I don't play unless she knows about it beforehand, and don't allow myself to get into situations where that is a concern. She knows she's free to play as the situation dictates, and that all I ask is that she tells me if something may happen or already has happened. I trust her judgement completely, and she is a big girl who can easily take care of herself. She's also very picky when it comes to men, so a guy has to really be special to even make her think about him becoming a "possible." (Our word for a guy she'd like to get to know better, and most probably in the Biblical sense - lol.) She trusts my judgement and I've never done anything to betray that trust, nor will I ever. This is all about building more excitement for US - not just getting laid by somebody other than our spouses. If we didn't find this activity to be mutually exciting, I can say with authority that we wouldn't have even considered it to begin with. The fact that it IS mutually exciting keeps us doing it. If it ever fails to be such, we will leave the lifestyle and become monogamous once again. I'm truly a lucky man in that I've met the most darling woman of my dreams in all ways, and I'm totally dedicated to her in every sense of the word.