I pretty much agree with the others here and would add the following.
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Originally Posted by rugbyjuggalette These are some of my questions: I can I do this as a single female? I obviously don't mean that its hard for me to find people that are willing for me to join, but it's hard to feel comfortable. How do I make sure I'm safe? How do I know that no will mean no? I don't have a husband or boyfriend to watch out for me, so what situations can be okay? |
I would suggest finding a good "on-premise" club. The reason I think this is the best bet for a single female is that whether you are just their taking it all in or you decide to actaully hook up with others for some play time their is always club hosts or personel around to watch your back. If things don't seem to be going the way you like you can easily excuse yourself from the situation knowing that the people there will respect your wishes or get delt with by the hosts.
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Originally Posted by rugbyjuggalette Also, about the guys that want to arrange a party for me-- can they be trusted? Some of them seem like they want to be like a "pimp"-- they'll arrange everything, but only if I definitely sleep with them. It made me feel very weird, and I've gathered from previous posts that I shouldn't deal with anything that makes me uncomfortable. Is this the typical arrangement if you want someone to set something up for you? |
I have never heard of this being done in the lifestyle. I think your first impression is right these guys are looking for a nieve easy lay or intend to pimp you out to their buddies.
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Originally Posted by rugbyjuggalette Also, I want to be able to share my experiences with people I find attractive. Is this possible? how do I tell people I'm not interested in that I'm not interested? |
Just be honest, if you are approached by someone you are not intereted in just politely tell them you are not interested. You don't need to give any reasons and in our experiance it isn't even a good idea to do so. A simple "no thanks" is pefectly sufficient.
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Originally Posted by rugbyjuggalette And one last question-- I've been invited by a guy to a party on Friday night. I think I want to go to see what the whole thing is about. He says that he'll pay for me to go, we'll take separate cars, and I don't have to do anything. He said he planned to just go and watch anyway. Is this something I should do or should I be seeing red flags? Please, I need all the advice I can get! |
Like someone else said above, this guy probably just needs a ticket (you) to get into the party. Most parties and clubs allow single females but do not allow single males. My advice would be to decline his offer and if the party is still an option, go by yourself.