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Originally Posted by Tempest419 ... you are, or were just previously involved with, a polyamorous relationship. This is the intimacy of which you are curious... this is more similar to what my husband and I are participating in. This is more of a "swingers" board and most of the topics here center around particulars and mechanics of sex and the lifestyle. |
Thanks Tempest.
Yep, I've reading recent posts where the term polyamorous bring up, and I agree that is what happend to us, and of course, it seems to be clear the difference between that and swinging. As for us, we're swingers because we're not looking for polyamorous relationships, but we're open for that to happen if the relation evolve that way. And even when in the middle of that relation, there was an explicit agreenment about swinging: with ot without her we were swinging with other people (it was a matter of availability and taste), and she was free to do the same without us, so in some sense, the only that defined the relation as "polyamorous" was the lack of limitation for our feelings among the three of us, and not a commitment between the three of us resembling the one we have as a couple.
So the question that I pointed out was related to how these limits works, wahtever they were, as a possible example: "We don't want another guy to cum inside her BECAUSE Mr. feels her womb is sacred and preserved to him, so if Mrs. get pregnant, it woildn't be a doubt of who the father would be".
The limit alone doesn't speak for who we are, and for me, swinging have a lot to do with who we are, to get connected with other people as deepth as it's confortable for everyone involved (and yep, that's a limit based on respect for each other).
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