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Originally Posted by sereneiders
This poll also leads to another question. From the "intimacy enforcement" perspective, how does it works the limitation to perform some acts while other acts are forbiden?...
I have to admit we're very peculiar about our particular contract and swinging. We had a threesome with another woman that turned into a deeph in love relation among the three of us, where we were confident enough as to let any of us to be alone with her, sleep with her alone, well, no restrictions at all. Even when the sexual aspects faded out, by now the love remains and she's our best fried and still we share a lot of time and activities with her. I know something like this is way off limits for a lot of swingers, but I don't know precicelly why.
Perhaps this is an off topic deserving another thread, if so, I appologize in advance.
sereneiders
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Hi there...
I think I can see the difference here in what you are asking, and the responses you're getting... you are, or were just previously involved with, a polyamorous relationship. This is the intimacy of which you are curious... this is more similar to what my husband and I are participating in. This is more of a "swingers" board and most of the topics here center around particulars and mechanics of sex and the lifestyle.
I don't think you are by any means odd man out, however... our partner is also my best friend. We are not quite as advanced as you are, as in, they don't have relations w/o me however I am not opposed to the idea under the right circumstances at some point soon. If I were to be the last one working, for instance, in the near future and we have a "date" night planned then I would not mind if they got started... as I will be joining in soon anyway. She is beginning to date again anyway so she feels no need to establish an "intimate" relationship with him exclusive of me. Quite frankly I am uncomfortable with a full blown intimate relationship with them, i.e., I would friggin' torture him if he were to buy her roses on his own. So there ya go... buying 'em roses would be too intimate for MANY people's tastes on this board
Hope that answers more of your question about intimacy...
As for sex, with her we are able to go bareback. However, our rules are
1) No coming in her (he doesn't come in me while I'm off the pill)
2) No anal sex (which suits her fine as she's not into it)
That's all I can think of right now, can't imagine not kissing someone I'm having sex with!
~Tempest