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BodyScape02 · 12-06-2005, 08:13 PM

I just want to know when ... Thank you, but, no thank you... or… Thank you, but not right now...became an unacceptable answer?

It just seems people only want to hear the word...YES… when they ask you for something.

I think part of the problem is everyone is so quick to get their nose out of joint. They are so insecure that they take anything but YES as a personal insult. We have turned into middle-aged spoiled brats. Shame on us (I mean people in general... Mr. B and I try our best not to be this way)

I for one know when I ask someone if they would like to do anything( including play with me/us), that I can get one of three answers ( Yes...No…Maybe) it is not up to me to choose or demand the answer I want ..I have to accept the answer they give.

No means no, and maybe means, give me some space and relax a little. Why get all bent out of shape about it?

We just have to accept that sometimes people for their own reasons will not like the answer we have to give.

Like Pepper & Drew said...

"Because truly, although we don't want to make enemies, we didn't get into the lifestyle to play nursemaids to everyone else's egos."

and then this can happen…( also Pepper & Drew)

"We excused ourselves from couples that we weren't interested in (nicely of course), we mingled, we flirted, we politely turned down offers that we weren't interested in, met some people we'd talked to online and had a fantastic night/morning "

12-06-2005, 08:13 PM	#14 (permalink)
BodyScape02 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 556 Location: off the board	Re: Do you ever get overwhelmed? I just want to know when ... Thank you, but, no thank you... or… Thank you, but not right now...became an unacceptable answer? It just seems people only want to hear the word...YES… when they ask you for something. I think part of the problem is everyone is so quick to get their nose out of joint. They are so insecure that they take anything but YES as a personal insult. We have turned into middle-aged spoiled brats. Shame on us (I mean people in general... Mr. B and I try our best not to be this way) I for one know when I ask someone if they would like to do anything( including play with me/us), that I can get one of three answers ( Yes...No…Maybe) it is not up to me to choose or demand the answer I want ..I have to accept the answer they give. No means no, and maybe means, give me some space and relax a little. Why get all bent out of shape about it? We just have to accept that sometimes people for their own reasons will not like the answer we have to give. Like Pepper & Drew said... "Because truly, although we don't want to make enemies, we didn't get into the lifestyle to play nursemaids to everyone else's egos." and then this can happen…( also Pepper & Drew) "We excused ourselves from couples that we weren't interested in (nicely of course), we mingled, we flirted, we politely turned down offers that we weren't interested in, met some people we'd talked to online and had a fantastic night/morning "