This has been an interesting read. In going over TNT's and Drew & Pepper's post I think I have finally figured out our problem.
You both commented (I'm sure others did to but these were the last two I read before the light went on
) that you don't want to hurt other's feelings either and that you have to do who
or what you want in the lifestyle. You try not to let others "corner" you into a situation where you hurt feelings or don't play at all for a night.
Here is our problem. I'll try to keep it short. Names will be removed to protect the innocent
When we first started dating we use to have dinner out at the restaurant where my son was the chef and then he could come out and talk for a little while. We knew the manager (super nice) and some of the waitresses.
On one particular night this family of 5 had been waiting awhile (very busy friday night) and got a little "overly" agitated. They took turns going to the hostess and chewing her out and then came back and bragged about what the said to her. We watched the whole thing to our dismay and joked and tried to get the hostess smiling when she seated us.
We decided then to not ever be the "___" family (name left out to not hurt feelings
) (see we can't help ourselves :rollseyes ) Now it's good to not hurt feelings and be nice to clerks, waitresses, etc. But I think after reading this thread that we have almost gone overboard if that is possible.
We now worry so much about being nice to people that we end up not being nice to ourselves in a way. Now to learn to balance this out so we can still say we are not the "___" family and be nice to people we see week after week at our club but also have fun with the ones we want to.
Mrs Spoomonkey