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montresor · 12-06-2005, 07:08 AM

In other threads, bi guys and couples with bi guys have noted that stating "I'm a big honkin' bi guy!" in their ad seems to limit their responses and opportunities for meeting a wide range of people, but to lie and claim they're straight just to get more dates doesn't sit well with them. I wonder if, for some people, the "not homophobic" appellation is a graceful way of saying that if m2m contact happens or is desired, they have no problem going with the flow, but if only "het" action is on the menu, they're happy to go with that too.

A way of being upfront without creating a situation that might make someone uncomfortable?

12-06-2005, 07:08 AM	#14 (permalink)
montresor Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 78 Location: Cleveland Hts., OH Status: single male (w/swing partner) Swing Lifestyle Name:montresor	Re: Not homophobic?? In other threads, bi guys and couples with bi guys have noted that stating "I'm a big honkin' bi guy!" in their ad seems to limit their responses and opportunities for meeting a wide range of people, but to lie and claim they're straight just to get more dates doesn't sit well with them. I wonder if, for some people, the "not homophobic" appellation is a graceful way of saying that if m2m contact happens or is desired, they have no problem going with the flow, but if only "het" action is on the menu, they're happy to go with that too. A way of being upfront without creating a situation that might make someone uncomfortable?