It's not the situation, Spoos, it's your reaction to it. Why can't you spend hours talking to one couple and having fun with just them? If other people's feelings are hurt, as crass as it sounds, that's tough for them. They'll either understand or they won't, and it's fine with us either way. If they're good friends, they'll understand. If they're not, that's probably a good time to find out that they're not.
A few months ago we got caught up in the "oh, we should go talk to that couple or group, or we think they're nice, but aren't INTO them so let's spend all night avoiding them, or gee, we like this couple, but there's that other couple is hotter, but to be nice..." You get the idea. It's freakin' exhausting. So, now we play it by ear and we don't buy into the SHOULDZ. If we want to do something, we do it. We'll tell whatever couple as nicely as possible that we enjoy their company, but have other plans for tonight, or whatever. Because truly, although we don't want to make enemies, we didn't get into the lifestyle to play nursemaids to everyone else's egos. It has made a big difference in how much we enjoy socials. We went to one this weekend and had the BEST time we've EVER had at a social. You know why? Because we danced when we wanted to dance. We excused ourselves from couples that we weren't interested in (nicely of course), we mingled, we flirted, we politely turned down offers that we weren't interested in, met some people we'd talked to online and had a fantastic night/morning
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