The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How to bring up swinging with my wife without hurting her?

BradAndJanet · 12-05-2005, 07:51 PM

phadz2, you might start out with a little 'pillow talk' about her fantasies. This works especially well in the afterglow of a good sexual session. Be totally non-judgemental, supportive and get her to open up. Naturally, she'll want to know what yours are.

By open and honest and, most importantly, reassure her constantly that you think she's the most desireable woman to ever walk the planet. Make sure she understands that you only want to do this with her, that you're not trying to replace her and that you'll shut up and walk away from it if that's what she wants.

Plant the seed, then give it time to grow. It takes some people quite a while to get their heads around this subject. When the time is right, show her this board. The people here can answer almost any question she might have and believe me when I say that no one here will try to talk her into becoming a swinger is she's not ready or isn't of the right mindset.

Take it slowly and you may succeed. Keep in mind though that you may not. Some people are just not cut out for this and pushing them into it will most certainly backfire.

Best of luck!

-B

12-05-2005, 07:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: How due I get my wife into swinging phadz2, you might start out with a little 'pillow talk' about her fantasies. This works especially well in the afterglow of a good sexual session. Be totally non-judgemental, supportive and get her to open up. Naturally, she'll want to know what yours are. By open and honest and, most importantly, reassure her constantly that you think she's the most desireable woman to ever walk the planet. Make sure she understands that you only want to do this with her, that you're not trying to replace her and that you'll shut up and walk away from it if that's what she wants. Plant the seed, then give it time to grow. It takes some people quite a while to get their heads around this subject. When the time is right, show her this board. The people here can answer almost any question she might have and believe me when I say that no one here will try to talk her into becoming a swinger is she's not ready or isn't of the right mindset. Take it slowly and you may succeed. Keep in mind though that you may not. Some people are just not cut out for this and pushing them into it will most certainly backfire. Best of luck! -B __________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us...