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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 I have but one question... is it the single man who is not comfortable with your feelings and the poly definition? I only ask because from reading this post, that is the only item that seems unclear.
Your mate appears confident in your commitment, you appear caught off guard by your own feelings, yet still firmly in love with your mate (as the fact you chose to stop, be honest with him and talk through it indicates), So that leads me to the assumption that it is the single male who is really thrown for a loop by this.
Am I reading this correctly?
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Cat,
Yes, it is him. He has been in the lifestyle for a few years and had that happen once before so he knew the signs. He does not see her anymore. He was the one that initiated the talk about a break. He said it was getting too close. I asked if it was me that made him feel that I was getting to close and he said no.....it is both of us.
The worst thing for me is this......he told me awhile ago that he has been more intimate with me than other women (in the lifestyle). That is what has made our time together so nice. That is the same thing that is making him want to take a break. I know we need to talk about it but I think some time apart would be good before I bring it up. I know that he wants a relationship with someone that isn't someone else's wife. It just hasn't happened for him yet. I was glad that I could give him a little bit of that when we were together. I know he doesn't want a poly relationship. Maybe we need to define for ourselves what it really is that we want before we continue.
Thanks for your comments. I just really needed to talk today.