[DBL D]

I think what you'll have to do Naughty is, if it isn't too late, to just let the guy know that you care about him from the standpoint of being such a good match with you two. He would seem comfy with that from what I gather. Like has been said, it's natural to develop (or have from the start) chemistry of some sort in order to maintain interest. That is the way it has been with us. If you want to stop short of poly you'll have to come up with a way to let him know that he is very special to you without him feeling like you "Love" him, and see how things go under that premise.

Male D