[NaughtyKitten]

Hi everyone!

I haven't been around here for awhile. This forum helped me so much when we started six months ago. Thank you all for everything!

I am in a situation right now that is not what I expected and I just stopped by to hopefully hear some words of encouragment from all of you. I figured maybe someone else could learn something from it, too.

We met a single guy a few months ago and started a swinging relationship with him. He got along well with my hubby and we all became friends. We would meet about every 2-4 weeks and everything was fun and fine. I was very happy to have found a great single guy for MFM. I have had a lot of great experiences with him and have felt comfortable to even try some new things. It has been great! Here's the problem.......We talked the other day about taking a break because we are both feeling too close. We have developed feelings for each other. I am having a hard time with the break. I wasn't having a hard time with the feelings. My husband wasn't having a hard time with the feelings either. He knows how much I like this guy and is ok with that as long as I am not wanting to end our marriage over it. I am not. The feelings I have for the other guy are in addition to that not instead of that.

I am so confused now. I did not expect this and don't know what to do now. Now that I am thinking more about it, I have had all kinds of strange thoughts that I never thought I would have. I am thinking very poly-like and I know that is not what he wants. I don't think I really do either. Oh hell!!! I am just ranting now.

I hope that you can give me some encouragment or at least some kind words while I am dealing with this.

Thanks,
NK (Katy)