 Re: Threesome Troubles
Sable,
From what you wrote I would say: You are looking for love through sex... you need someone to want you or a conquest to make you feel worthy or desired or sexual.
If that is so, I would say:
“Please get your crap together and quit screwing anyone... because ultimately you are screwing yourself. Learn to love yourself first and build something of value in your life you can be proud of. Acquire some habits and actions of intrinsic value to your very self centered and very spontaneously hedonistic soul, (say like honestly, self –respect, a job you van be proud of, financial success…whatever makes you feel you have true worth…other than sex)"
Why? Because , it is impossible for me to respect you... you have no respect for yourself or anyone else. How can I value you as a person, when you put such a low value on yourself?
Or of course you can just acknowledge your shortcomings as you have been, and go on acting the same way under the excuse of “I just can't help it that is the way I am". If you are going to do that... quit whining and accept your role as a doormat.
(I am talking to you as I do and did my girlfriends who were in the same position) tough love sounds ugly...truth is often unpleasant. Change is even more painful, but so worth the time and courageous effort...to become a WOMAN who will attract good things and men, because that is what she is and it is the sexiest thing on earth. It is worth the effort.
~Cat |