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curiouscouple4f · 12-05-2005, 09:15 AM

I think that the first person you need to speak with is not this friend, but your wife. Telling her and discussing your feelings with her first will prevent or minimize your impending "train-wreck". If you tell this other woman you "love her", what if she runs to your wife? You know she does not love you in return the same way, so... your options are tell your wife and work it out, tell the other lady and possibly make things very uncomfortable for her and have your wife find out second hand, or bury your feelings and just minimize the contact you have with her. If anyone else with experience will add advice i'd appreciate it. I'd be much happier with my husband if he came to me to discuss it first, I'd feel he was open, honest and trusting of our relationship.

"The Mrs."

12-05-2005, 09:15 AM	#4 (permalink)
curiouscouple4f Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 98 Location: georgia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curiouscouple4f	Re: What to do with best freinds? I think that the first person you need to speak with is not this friend, but your wife. Telling her and discussing your feelings with her first will prevent or minimize your impending "train-wreck". If you tell this other woman you "love her", what if she runs to your wife? You know she does not love you in return the same way, so... your options are tell your wife and work it out, tell the other lady and possibly make things very uncomfortable for her and have your wife find out second hand, or bury your feelings and just minimize the contact you have with her. If anyone else with experience will add advice i'd appreciate it. I'd be much happier with my husband if he came to me to discuss it first, I'd feel he was open, honest and trusting of our relationship. "The Mrs."