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**good times** · 12-03-2005, 07:06 PM

I feel your pain buddy, because it seems to happen this way for us sometimes too. And its not because we are so hot that everyone wants us, I wish that were the case, but I have to be realistic.

I think the main reason this happens to us is that we are pretty regular attendees at the club which means that several things seem to happen that add to this problem. The first is that we have become pretty good friends with a lot of the regulars and everyone wants to visit with us and catch up on what has been going on since we last saw them. Then their are the less regular attendees who know that we are usually there and come with the intention of trying to hook up with us but haven't bothered to mention this to us in advance, and it seems like we always have several couples in this category show up on the same night. So then it becomes the problem of playing with nobody because you don't want to hurt anyones feelings. And then their are the people that just seem to like to get turned down a lot and continue to pursue us even though we have declined to hook up with them in the past. Add all that up and it often uses up pretty much a whole evening out at the club.

On the other hand, we usually always have a good time when we go, so it is still a better evening than if we had stayed home watching TV. And every once in a while we have a night like last night. We arrived at the club around 9:00 and it was pretty dead with just us and a few other regulars. So we had a few drinks and visited a bit. Then around 10:30 people stared showing up and by 11:00 we had met a new couple that we were able to get to know and spend a very pleasant evening with.

I would have to say it can be a problem, but it isn't the worst problem we could have. And while we aren't experts at it yet, we are getting better at diplomatically dealing with these situations as time goes on. And lets face it, some nights we go to the club and aren't in the mood to play but still enjoy visiting with our friends. On those nights most of these problems aren't so bad to have.

12-03-2005, 07:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,460 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Do you ever get overwhelmed? I feel your pain buddy, because it seems to happen this way for us sometimes too. And its not because we are so hot that everyone wants us, I wish that were the case, but I have to be realistic. I think the main reason this happens to us is that we are pretty regular attendees at the club which means that several things seem to happen that add to this problem. The first is that we have become pretty good friends with a lot of the regulars and everyone wants to visit with us and catch up on what has been going on since we last saw them. Then their are the less regular attendees who know that we are usually there and come with the intention of trying to hook up with us but haven't bothered to mention this to us in advance, and it seems like we always have several couples in this category show up on the same night. So then it becomes the problem of playing with nobody because you don't want to hurt anyones feelings. And then their are the people that just seem to like to get turned down a lot and continue to pursue us even though we have declined to hook up with them in the past. Add all that up and it often uses up pretty much a whole evening out at the club. On the other hand, we usually always have a good time when we go, so it is still a better evening than if we had stayed home watching TV. And every once in a while we have a night like last night. We arrived at the club around 9:00 and it was pretty dead with just us and a few other regulars. So we had a few drinks and visited a bit. Then around 10:30 people stared showing up and by 11:00 we had met a new couple that we were able to get to know and spend a very pleasant evening with. I would have to say it can be a problem, but it isn't the worst problem we could have. And while we aren't experts at it yet, we are getting better at diplomatically dealing with these situations as time goes on. And lets face it, some nights we go to the club and aren't in the mood to play but still enjoy visiting with our friends. On those nights most of these problems aren't so bad to have. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)