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Originally Posted by kittylikesmfm some of the advice on this topic seems completely counter to the advice given on a similiar topic i broached about group fantasies. to me "taking one for the team", in allowing your spouse to participate or receive in a group orgy that did not include you, is almost the same thing as getting involved with a guy you aren't so into to get to his wife for your benefit, but more importantly, your spouses. by the same token, i would expect reciprocation from my husband on a male i was into with a so-so physically female.
the responses i got were much more positive than the ones here and i'm curious about that, because we basically asked the same question, just gave different circumstances:
how cool are you in participating in sexual enjoyment for your partner without getting instant sexual gratification yourself? |
No, they're two different situation. In the case of my friend's GB, I wasn't with anyone I didn't want to be with. In the case of taking one for the team, you're going to be with someone that you have no interest in. In one example, you're enjoying the show, even if you aren't getting direct sexual gratification. In taking one for the team, there's NO enjoyment whatsoever and ends up feeling like a chore. I'm not going to be with some troll just so my husband is attracted to the spouse, and I wouldn't expect him to do it either. We've had instances when the other female wanted two men, so I watched and took pictures. That was really fun and we both felt good about ourselves at the end of the night. In cases where either of us have taken one for the team, it's definitely not fun and we've said that we'll never do it again.
And, if it were always that one of us was fulfilling a fantasy, it would get old quickly. For example, if I were always just watching and taking pictures, that would soon lose its novelty. Or if I were always the one that participated in MFM threesomes, with nothing in it for Drew, I can tell you he would tire of that soon too. But, it doesn't really matter what is ok or not ok for other people, as long as the two of you are ok with what you chose to do....or not do.
Pepper