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Originally Posted by Paphian For myself, I approach every club night or encounter as being different in only one real respect from the vanilla world: that we all know in advance what the potential is, as we're all of like mind when it comes to sex. That's the only real difference I see from going to a vanilla club, or meeting people in 'normal' life. At a swing club or party one at least knows that everyone's there for pretty much the same purpose.  |
that's what i'm talking about. i'm kind of confused with alot of the approach towards swinging being so different from regular sex...i just can't imagine that. i mean the same things are going to draw me to an individual whether i'm approaching them with my spouse or not; the same qualities and rapport with the individual are going to drive my desire to fuck them.
i guess this kind of falls under the category of how superficial are you and/or your s.o.'s attractions to people and what relevance does that have on your ability to have sex with other people as a couple. my husband and i are both, "attractive at a glance, but upon talking up close, physical faults pale in comparison to personality flaws" types when assessing anyone we meet, male or female. if you're that type and your partner is shallow, i can see how you could have some big issues on who you wanted to be involved with and how.
and, btw, i love the term 'included third'. perfect.