[curiousagain]

It really varies. I am friends with a couple of husbands of couples I met in the lifestyle. We go out and do "guy stuff" together. I met them through swinging but we formed friendships. But, I am friends with the females also. They give me advice and sometimes "I told you so"s just like any female friend. We don't swing everytime we get together.


I have had the brief encounters where the SM is basically there to play a role and you show up, do what you're suppose to and leave.


Some couples/wives want a long build up and a sort of game to it. Maybe once in a while that would be ok, but there are only 24 hours in a day and I am usually dating or "chatting up" more than one single female at a time in addition to work, family, life, friends, etc. So, if something like that doesn't pan out pretty quick I lose interest in it. It's sort of like fishing, you pull up to a spot, throw the anchor, try a few different baits and presentations. If you don't catch anything, you pull anchor, fire it up and move on.

If anything began to smack of "romance" most SM would be gone in about a nano second. For whatever reason they are in swinging, that one isn't it, as far as wives are concerned. A swinging single female?? That could be a different story.