[EternallySingle]

Well, I see it as a waste of my time to swing with couples that don't want to be friends outside of a sexual context. What would I be gaining? One of the reasons for singles being friends with couples is to have that opportunity to talk to someone and get both sides of the story, so to speak. Its also fun to see them argue over something each thinks has a cut-and-dried solution.

Seriously, I can get laid anywhere. I just don't like some of my ... options. So I look for people I can relate to and have fun with FIRST. Then I wonder what they would be like sexually. A lot of people in the lifestyle (and strangely enough a lot of vanilla single women) want the sex first, and then, if you are good enough, they will try and become your friend so you will stay around longer. Thats backwards to me.

As far as friendship with a couple, there was one couple I used to swing with and it came about because I became friends with the man first and HE brought up the idea to me. In fact, several of my married male friends have hinted at that, but I only took three up on it, and only because I KNEW their marriage had few power or trust issues, and the wives weren't looking to get even with the guy for sleeping with someone else.

As for the opening up part, I think thats pretty obvious LOL