[kittylikesmfm]

i have a question for singles primarily but would also like to hear couples reverse experience.

for singles:
as a happily married woman, the point for me of swinging is to regain part of that youthful bliss sourounding a new possible sexual mate. i know it won't be as good, won't be the same, blah blah blah (i know for a fact nothing will ever compare to the sexual relationship my husband and i have had and are still having; i'm talking as garnish to that)

but in developing the whole atmosphere, to really mimic that curiousity and uncertainity about the other person, to me anyway, there has to be a friendship, a mutual attraction. i'm not just talking about seeing a physical body so incredibly attractive you have to fuck it. i mean, if you find that person and they agree to bang you, i'm jealous and happy for you..lol...but i'm talking about the person you find appealing physically, like alot of other people you meet, but their personality really sucks you in and you're suddenly consumed with the drive to make them cum.

as a single swinger, how willing are you to give that much of yourself for the person/s you're attracted to in the couple? do you ever "hold back" on opening up completely to couples, feeling like they have the relationship, so they should be required to 'give more' and 'open up' more since they are at an emotional and maybe even percieved social advantage?

and as secondary questions:

straight single guys; how willing are you to develop a good relationship(non sexual) with the male of a couple you get involved with?

bi single girls; have you been made to feel more comfortable,overall, by the male or female in couples (or with gay couples, by the more dominant or more submissive partner)