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pairbond · 11-15-2005, 11:23 AM

Both of us were married once previously and both of us had several different sex partners between marriages before we met each other.

I do think those experiences made swinging much easier for us than for those who have been "one and only" for each other all their adult lives before contemplating swinging. When you have been married previously and had other sex partners between marriages, it is abundantly clear that sexual exclusivity, or being the only one to do a certain act with your spouse (such as anal sex, for example) is not a relevant issue. What IS relevant is your love for and commitment to each other. Obviously the fact that you've had other sex partners and already done everything is not a deterrent to that love and commitment.

I just think it's harder for the "one and only" couples to get beyond the upbringing most of us had about monogamy and sexual exlusivity.

11-15-2005, 11:23 AM	#80 (permalink)
pairbond Active Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 156 Location: USA	Re: Marriage/ Divorce Both of us were married once previously and both of us had several different sex partners between marriages before we met each other. I do think those experiences made swinging much easier for us than for those who have been "one and only" for each other all their adult lives before contemplating swinging. When you have been married previously and had other sex partners between marriages, it is abundantly clear that sexual exclusivity, or being the only one to do a certain act with your spouse (such as anal sex, for example) is not a relevant issue. What IS relevant is your love for and commitment to each other. Obviously the fact that you've had other sex partners and already done everything is not a deterrent to that love and commitment. I just think it's harder for the "one and only" couples to get beyond the upbringing most of us had about monogamy and sexual exlusivity.