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ladyjane1 · 11-09-2005, 03:13 PM

Thanks you guys for all the great advice. I read through, took some of it, and we had a really great talk last night! I have emailed him some links, and some of the pages from here, which got the ball rolling, along with an email saying if he wanted to look, fine, if not, fine, I would not bring the issue up again, if he wanted to discuss it, it was up to him. Well, giving him that control over the situation worked! Turns out, he used to swing (quite a bit) when he was dating, but just never thought about it since getting married (the fact that his 1st wife cheated on him doesn't help). Long story short, we started having a really good, in depth convo, shared thoughts and fantasies (although he's done most of his, lucky bastid

), and now seems much more willing to explore. His big concern is accidentally running into someone we know, and we both agreed we'd love to do our best friends.....LMAO Anyway, thanks, all of you....and BTW where do you all get the great avatars?? I love the one with the witch on the broom!!

Thanks!

11-09-2005, 03:13 PM	#12 (permalink)
ladyjane1 Active Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Maine Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:ladyjane	Re: Awkward position....(no pun intended) Thanks you guys for all the great advice. I read through, took some of it, and we had a really great talk last night! I have emailed him some links, and some of the pages from here, which got the ball rolling, along with an email saying if he wanted to look, fine, if not, fine, I would not bring the issue up again, if he wanted to discuss it, it was up to him. Well, giving him that control over the situation worked! Turns out, he used to swing (quite a bit) when he was dating, but just never thought about it since getting married (the fact that his 1st wife cheated on him doesn't help). Long story short, we started having a really good, in depth convo, shared thoughts and fantasies (although he's done most of his, lucky bastid ), and now seems much more willing to explore. His big concern is accidentally running into someone we know, and we both agreed we'd love to do our best friends.....LMAO Anyway, thanks, all of you....and BTW where do you all get the great avatars?? I love the one with the witch on the broom!! Thanks!