 Re: Awkward position....(no pun intended)
Although all this advice is good, BradAndJanet gave you a good one in one of your earlier posts. Bring hubby here, read through the plethora of erotic stories, questions, opinions, and well-researched answers to some of the foundation questions that beginners have. He might or might not ever get on the same page as you, but he can at least read & explore & maybe give it further thought.
When we first started out, (Swinging had been strictly pillow talk during our first four years together) we didn't know this board existed, and could have saved ourselves some grief. We had worries about jealousy issues, body issues, not knowing where to find people issues....the list goes on & on.
When we had actally set up our first meet (MFM) I had to work that day, & Mr. Snsual was at home. I come home from work to a darkened house, and him sitting in stony silence in a corner. I ask what's wrong (of course I knew what was coming) and he says "I decided I don't want to do this. I love you too much, I don't want to share you with anyone." I'm silent. (Now, I gotta say, I had just worked my butt off all day long [waitressing] and had spent about half of what I'd made that day at Wal-Mart on a new outfit, candles, condoms, whatever...and I was just thinking, OMG I just spent half of my earnings on NOTHING because he's canceling) And he took my silence to mean that I was angry at him for ruining my chances of sleeping with someone else. We got into this HUGE fight, (Extremely long story, & I don't want to hijack your thread here, so I'll cut to the chase) stayed distant for a week or so, then he starts bringing it back up in our bedroom talk! MEN! LOL
Point is, I didn't close the door on our communication. We admitted it was perhaps best to keep it a fantasy, but we eventually talked through enough of our issues to give it another go, and we've never looked back. I think if he'd been able to come here & get opinions, advice or what have you, that the transition from pillow talk into reality might have been a smoother ride.
~Mrs. Snsual~
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