[intuition897]

I think maybe you should not give up too easily. No, don't badger him, but keep the door open. He just needs space and time to adjust to what you've proposed, and he needs to know that you are completely open to discussing anything at all with him about it. You could say you've noticed he seems very uncomfortable about the whole thing, and can he tell you specifically what he's feeling about it all? You need this feedback from him. You can't leave this stuff up to the imagination or assumption. Even though neither of you are yet at the stage of implementing your new plan, you've opened the door - openend Pandora's Box, as we say - and now there are questions that have formed because of it. If you don't resolve these quesions, they will fester. Right now, I'll bet he's questioning how devoted you are to this marriage, what/how much he means to you, how capable he is of keeping you satisfied (sexually and otherwise), what HE wants from the marriage, how much he wants a wife who wants to have sex with other people... See what I mean? One unanswered question tends to lead to bigger, uglier and more unrealistic imaginings and bigger and uglier questions. Questions that wouldn't even be formed if the original doubts had been nipped in the bud.

Keep talking to hubby. Make sure he doesn't have any doubts about your intentions or feelings for him and your relationship.