 Men and Sexuality
Hello Everyone,
We are new to posting on the board, but have been reading through a lot of topics here for quite sometime. I have a very serious question to ask and would appreciate some feed back. I would also appreciate it, that if these questions disturb you, that you refrain from bashing and thrashing us. I will try to explain all of this to you as thoroughly as I can.
We have been swinging with couples for over a year. We enjoy swinging and have great fun. I am (the female half bi-sexual), my husband, I thought was always what most would consider straight. We have had a few occasions in which we were with other couples in that the male was bi and it didn't disturb us at all. It actually made for some playing around a lot more fun as no one was phobic. That is the men being in close quarters together. Okay. On with the story.
As I said, we have been reading through a lot of these topics here, my husband specifically certain ones about male bi-sexuality. Recently he asked me if I would consider a single male who was bi-sexual so that he could explore this part of himself. Needless to say, I nearly had a coronary. He had never once mentioned anything like this to me. I mean he has talked about all kinds of scenarios, but this just floored me. I am by no means anti bi-sexuality for either sex. In fact I find that it just might be very erotic. I am willing to persue this with him. However, I feel that due to the stigma of any male contact by the general society may frighten him from wanting to explore this.
My questions are these:
How can we overcome these fears and anxieties?
Why should a man fear expressing himself in what ever way they desire sexually, when a woman is encouraged to do so?
Has anyone else ever just had their husband spring this on them out of the blue? If so how did you handle it?
Thank you kindly for any well thought out response.
Magnolia
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