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Originally Posted by Greg & Sheryl You will find people across the entire spectrum in this regard. Some swingers will actively seek friends while others are interested only in finding sex partners. We genuinely enjoy making friends within the lifestyle, but we don't force the issue. We are in the lifestyle primarily for the sex, but if we happen to make friends along the way, we regard that as a wonderful bonus. |
Dito to this post from Greg & Sheryl...
We started out wanting to be friends first with anyone we play with, now, not so much....part of the reason is because we don't want the drama that happens in friendships let alone bed partners...but mostly because that is a hard thing to truly find, good friendships are difficult enough to maintain and cultivate, but add in sex and BAM! everything gets more complicated... It is possible and some people can avoid these issues altogether, and someday we hope to be able to have this type of friends with benefits, but it may not ever happen and we are ok with that....
I do not think that it would make a difference for us if it was a single (male or female) or a couple, drama is a big factor that I think we all (I hope) try to avoid and it can happen with a single male just as easily as a single female or another couple (as we have learned the hard way...
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