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BodyScape02 · 11-01-2005, 07:32 PM

My comment on this is that you have so many hidden agenda's you need a score card to keep them straight... You seem too young (emotionally) to know what you want... or understand were you want to go.

Take the time to figure it out and don't blame others for what you are willing to do. If you have self respect and know yourself... then you can say no to what you don't like.

After all, your boyfriend is asking you about all this ...up front. He seems to be communicating honestly... YOU ARE NOT. You suspect him of alternate motives... that comes from what you have done ( all of your alternative motives). You’re transposing it onto him... and the guilt...self imposed because you know it.

Your attitude about your boyfriend ( considering you want to do his friend but would be jealous if he did anyone) tell me you have more of a cheaters mentality going on there...especially the selfish attitude and jealous comment.

Sex and love are two really different things.

Someone with a more mature emotional profile might consider the set-up you have as ideal...someone with a real grip on who they are as a woman and a sexual being. Someone else with a different perspective and morality would see you as being used. You seem to see you as woman without a will but with allot of wants.

You have to figure out exactly what you really do want…what you are worth ( to yourself) and what you are willing and not willing to do. That more than any situation you are in will determine how happy you can be..( as it travels with you from situation to situation and place to place) No one can do that one for you…But you.

Good luck hon

Ms Body.

11-01-2005, 07:32 PM	#10 (permalink)
BodyScape02 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 556 Location: off the board	Re: Threesome Troubles My comment on this is that you have so many hidden agenda's you need a score card to keep them straight... You seem too young (emotionally) to know what you want... or understand were you want to go. Take the time to figure it out and don't blame others for what you are willing to do. If you have self respect and know yourself... then you can say no to what you don't like. After all, your boyfriend is asking you about all this ...up front. He seems to be communicating honestly... YOU ARE NOT. You suspect him of alternate motives... that comes from what you have done ( all of your alternative motives). You’re transposing it onto him... and the guilt...self imposed because you know it. Your attitude about your boyfriend ( considering you want to do his friend but would be jealous if he did anyone) tell me you have more of a cheaters mentality going on there...especially the selfish attitude and jealous comment. Sex and love are two really different things. Someone with a more mature emotional profile might consider the set-up you have as ideal...someone with a real grip on who they are as a woman and a sexual being. Someone else with a different perspective and morality would see you as being used. You seem to see you as woman without a will but with allot of wants. You have to figure out exactly what you really do want…what you are worth ( to yourself) and what you are willing and not willing to do. That more than any situation you are in will determine how happy you can be..( as it travels with you from situation to situation and place to place) No one can do that one for you…But you. Good luck hon Ms Body.