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SableOnBlond · 11-01-2005, 06:56 PM

Wow, thanks everyone for taking the time to respond!

If I am to be honest, the thing about the whole situation is that I don't really *want* any of this. I feel nothing but abject shame that I consummated my feelings for his friend, even if I was given permission. I feel even more shame that I went ahead and had sex with his friend alone, which I knew angered my boyfriend. Why he has not killed me in my sleep yet is really beyond me...

I'm sorry that this whole Pandora's Box was opened. As I was reading through the boards, which have been very enlightening, I saw a post saying that one reason a guy might suggest a MMF threesome is to get his girlfriend to open up to a MFF one, which seems to be the case for me. Although he isn't all that persistent, he has said things like I "owe" him a MFF now. That just really makes me angry. It seems like he offered up his best friend to me, like it was a favor, so that I would give him access to another girl. Frankly, I'm appalled. Although he says he "Wouldn't do anything, just watch..." It is plainly obvious that's only lip service.

But I do think that he also gets pleasure out of the MMF, especially since admitting he wants to try sex with a man. Basically, I think I'm just going to stop having any kind of threesomes whatsoever. It may cost me my relationship, but there is something that makes me uneasy thinking that his friend may be a part of our lives forever. It's not that I'm against homosexuality, but knowing my boyfriend probably has sexual feelings for his best friend doesn't sit well with me. I think I'd prefer someone who lusts after only me. Thanks again for your insight, and I am always open to hearing more.

11-01-2005, 06:56 PM	#8 (permalink)
SableOnBlond Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 25 Location: PA	Re: Threesome Troubles Wow, thanks everyone for taking the time to respond! If I am to be honest, the thing about the whole situation is that I don't really want any of this. I feel nothing but abject shame that I consummated my feelings for his friend, even if I was given permission. I feel even more shame that I went ahead and had sex with his friend alone, which I knew angered my boyfriend. Why he has not killed me in my sleep yet is really beyond me... I'm sorry that this whole Pandora's Box was opened. As I was reading through the boards, which have been very enlightening, I saw a post saying that one reason a guy might suggest a MMF threesome is to get his girlfriend to open up to a MFF one, which seems to be the case for me. Although he isn't all that persistent, he has said things like I "owe" him a MFF now. That just really makes me angry. It seems like he offered up his best friend to me, like it was a favor, so that I would give him access to another girl. Frankly, I'm appalled. Although he says he "Wouldn't do anything, just watch..." It is plainly obvious that's only lip service. But I do think that he also gets pleasure out of the MMF, especially since admitting he wants to try sex with a man. Basically, I think I'm just going to stop having any kind of threesomes whatsoever. It may cost me my relationship, but there is something that makes me uneasy thinking that his friend may be a part of our lives forever. It's not that I'm against homosexuality, but knowing my boyfriend probably has sexual feelings for his best friend doesn't sit well with me. I think I'd prefer someone who lusts after only me. Thanks again for your insight, and I am always open to hearing more.