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***JustAskJulie*** · 11-01-2005, 04:35 PM

Ok, let me see if I got this straight....

You guys are both ok with kissing and prefer it.
The couple you are meeting with, the male is ok with kissing but the female is not (unless it's another woman)?

Is that right?

I would wonder why their boundaries are this way? Is it a choice on her part? Or does seeing her kiss another man make him jealous?

I am with you, I'd have a really difficult time playing with a couple who wasn't totally ok with kissing, as you say it's just part of it, so having to avoid it would put a damper on things and knowing me, I'd probably screw up and not even thinking about it attempt to kiss someone (I'd never make a good hooker).

I'd definately want to know the answers to the above (their reasons why) before I did anything with them. If it's a jealousy issue on his part, I'd probably avoid playing with them altogether for fear of other issues popping up. If it's just her thing (that she doesn't like kissing other guys) then I'd sit down and have a discussion with them and establish what the group rules will be to everyone's satisfaction before proceeding.

11-01-2005, 04:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Kissing boundaries Ok, let me see if I got this straight.... You guys are both ok with kissing and prefer it. The couple you are meeting with, the male is ok with kissing but the female is not (unless it's another woman)? Is that right? I would wonder why their boundaries are this way? Is it a choice on her part? Or does seeing her kiss another man make him jealous? I am with you, I'd have a really difficult time playing with a couple who wasn't totally ok with kissing, as you say it's just part of it, so having to avoid it would put a damper on things and knowing me, I'd probably screw up and not even thinking about it attempt to kiss someone (I'd never make a good hooker). I'd definately want to know the answers to the above (their reasons why) before I did anything with them. If it's a jealousy issue on his part, I'd probably avoid playing with them altogether for fear of other issues popping up. If it's just her thing (that she doesn't like kissing other guys) then I'd sit down and have a discussion with them and establish what the group rules will be to everyone's satisfaction before proceeding.