[northindycpl]

Hi and Welcome to the board!

I guess I have to admit that I am not, nor have been in this situation before, and I hope others will post that could give you first hand advice.

What it sounds to me like, and I have read your post twice now, is that you sorta have and desire to have a poly situation. I do not think that is abnormal for those in poly lifestyles, however I do think it is outside the norm for some swingers.

Maybe looking at polyamorous website, may give you more insight.

MY ultimate advice is to talk openly with your boyfriend, communicating all that you have with us. If it were me, it would be really important for me to know where he is coming from, (your perception of encouragment from him, the bi-curious side of him, etc) and it would be important for him to know that you really enjoyed the 3-somes and desire to have more of them with this roomate.

I think that once you and your boyfriend are on the same page it will make it easier for you to persue the other roomate and your assumption of his bi-curious and sex play side.

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful, but I think nothing can happen until there is communication.