Mrs. Sporty and I have only had a couple of full-swing experiences, and each time it envloved close, long-time friendships that developed into swinging. Unfortunately, we rarely see them any more because it seems that now, whenever they mention getting together again it seems that they expect it to include sex. Being the horney dog that I am, I don't really have a problem with that, but the little woman seems to resent this attitude on their part. She wonders why we can't just go out and have a good time without having to feel pressured into turning an enjoyable evening into another sexual encounter. She seems to feel sort of used and I can understand her perspective on this. The sex play with them was fun, but not without some problems which included way too much alcohol and some emotional games which came about due to problems in their own relationship. They don't seem to have the trust or solid commitment that we feel is necessary before a couple enters into this kind of activity (both parties got Mrs. Sporty to the side and wanted to engage her in a 3-some in my absence which really pissed her off). Mrs. Sporty was quite young when we first got together and has had a limited number of sexual partners, so she has to feel real comfortable with someone before venturing any further, and that is part of the reason that I love her and trust her so much (I have an ex that was a total slut and would drop her drawers for almost anybody). I, on the other hand, have had casual sex with a number of different partners and don't necessarily feel the need for a deep friendship to develop before getting naked with someone. But I understand my wife's feelings on this matter and know better than to try and push her in a direction she's not ready to go. Because of these experiences, we have backed off and are only now considering trying to develop some new friendships that, hopefully, will lead to some erotic activity in the future. Some of the most exciting sex I've ever had has been with others involved...I don't really know why, but that just seems to be the one thing that really rocks my world. Because of this, I tend to be much more open to this sort of activity than her, but because I love her and regard her needs and desires as important as my own, I let her take things at her own speed and comfort level. As the saying goes, "If everyone isn't enjoying themselves, then you probably shouldn't be doing it!" Sportync
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