Exactly!
Based on a couple's personality, sense of commitment, and just plain old personal preferences, we all define what we do in our own way. For us, we really like sharing the core stuff that turns us on. That means some amount of emotional commitment. We don't like to "just fuck". But we don't think there's anything "wrong" with folks who do...it's just not our way.
For us, we don't think that there is a right or wrong way to swing other than this...If you are doing something that one of the other people involved can't handle, then it's wrong. If you're staying true to your values and those of the people you are with, then it's right. I think that much of the friction in swinging situations comes from disregarding this rule of mutual gratification.
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