 Re: wife has double standard
It's when I read an opening post like this one that I wish the wife was here to give her side of the story. It can make a difference, as I've seen before in other threads.
You titled your thread "wife has double standard" which says to me you feel she wants something that she won't allow you. What is that? Your post doesn't seem to match what the title suggests. Is the fact that she made the mistake of playing when she said she wouldn't what's really bothering you? Or could it be that you haven't found a special playmate like she has? Or maybe it's something else.
Whatever it is that's not quite right, my advice is be honest with yourself, look your situation squarely in the eye, and work from there.
Seeing the problem as one person's fault rarely works to the advantage of a marriage.
You are frustrated, she may be too, who knows what irritations you've brought into the swinging part of your life together. You've been swinging 9 years. You said "Not pised about the sex but the fact that I wasn't informed before she got down to the deed!" leads me to believe you two have allowed separate play over the years.
I think there is something more here. A bigger issue.
LM
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