 Re: wife has double standard
I agree with Mr. Spoo on this issue. THere appears to be a huge gap in Productive communication going on here. I also agree that you need to both pull away for a while and set up some new ground rules. Hubby and I have played separately before, but...and this is a large But..everything is discussed, planned and agreed upon first. He would know where I was at all times, who I was with, what was going on, exactly when I would return. Any change in these plans results in a phone call at which point a whole new discussion would occur. If someone is uncomfortable then it does not happen.
When we say we play alone, it is a rare thing that only happens with people we know VERY well and trust (no singles either). It works for us, but it if started to seem to go off track we would stop in a heart beat. As Mr. Spoo pointed out, this is just a 'hobby' to us, it is not our life and my husband is number one at all times.
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