It sounds like you have the potential for a great meeting coming up here.
If the female initiated the contact and has done the screening process then likely the hubby will trust her instincts and without being obvious I might suggest that you focus on really listening to the females questions and taking mental notes on her priorities. Of course don't ignore the male but as you implied you don't want to create a buddy, buddy relationship with the guy that may her feel like a third wheel.
Don't forget to screen them too. Even though she may look like she belongs in a playboy centerfold watch out for those vibes that give away possible pitfalls. Be observant of subtle clues that they have disagreements about how things should go. If they disagree on anything that involves, the where, how or when, then that is a red flag. There are some instances where the wifey is doing a revenge thing and hubby isn't thrilled with it. That is unlikely but just one of many scenarios that could arise.
It pays to be on your toes, and not drink too much being very perceptive of body language, remarks and signals that could be indicators of problems once you are in the bedroom.
The ideal situation for a single male is when the female is in charge and likes you. But don't compromise your integrity for a lay. After the initial "hi how r ya" and general social conversation in my opinion it is wise to get to the point of what it is that they really really want. It is equally important that they want what you want. Maybe she wants to see you buttfuck him.....ya know. or maybe she wants what he doesn't want.....many variables.
If they spend hours without broaching the subject then it may be a good idea to gently bring up the subject of the meeting substance. Don't be afraid of being forward about what you expect if they hesitate to discuss it.
Couples have limitations and so do single guys. Make yours clear when the time is right. Timing is everything though. Its a bitch to be still yapping at 1 am because everyone feels too awkward to bring up the real matter of the meeting.
If i could give any advice here it would be to steer the conversation only if they don't.
I hate meeting at a loud dance club though. The music is so loud and the conversation can be hard to manage.
Always go with the idea that there is a percentage chance. In your case I'd give it 60/40 in your favor but don't beat around the bush until its too late to eat around the bush. John. |