[bear_and_babe]

We have a couple who we are very close to. They are the ones who taught us about the lifestyle, but we have never played with them. There is some very strong sexual tension going on, but we decided not to play. We all talked about it and the fear for us is that if something went wrong, then we would loose the close friendship. We can get sex anywhere, but good friends are hard to come by. We were in a exclusive relationship with another couple who we really thought were good friends. Well, we had a bad break- up and now we hardly speak to each other. Losing the sex was hard, but losing their friendship has been the most painful. We don't ever want to go through that again, so for us, we kind of keep our friendships in the lifestyle at arms length.