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Originally Posted by De and Ci

I would like to know if there are many on-premise clubs that screen for appearance, and if they do not, are all of the members unattractive and overweight.

The members of the clubs I've been to are usually representative of the community at large. In other words, clubs in Florida and California tend to have more fit couples, while couples in the midwest tend to be on the heavy side. As BodyScape pointed out, the hosts of a club or private party really play a large part in establishing what kinds of people attend their function. If the attitude and appearance of the hosts are agreeable to you, then those of the people you meet there are likely to be, also.

In fact an article in a Houston mag about a fairly new on-premise club also referred to the patrons as skanky and said they were told the clientele has gotton older and heavier since it opened.

That sounds like a non-approving reporters attempt to smear both the club and the lifestyle while maintaining an air of "journalistic objectivity." A letter to the editor asking if his so-called "reporter" has ever referred, in print, to members of a local church, civic organization, or other business establishment as "older and heavier," or "skanky" might bring an interesting response.

My theory is that when an on-premise club that does not screen opens for business. What happens is the better looking couples will stop attending if unattractive and obese couples start attending, since they are not interested in playing with them.

IMHO, what drives many couples away from a given club, and sometimes from swinging altogether, is NOT the "unattractiveness" of some of it's members, but how some members attitudes towards lifestyle and sexuality are reflected in the general atmosphere of the club itself. Too many swing clubs are run like sleazy, Subic Bay bars. But that's a subject for a different thread.

Of course, if you are unattractive you are not going to have a problem with attractive members. So what happens is the club eventually draws only unattractive couples.

Hmmm...I don't know that I would agree with that. You don't have to scratch the surface of this lifestyle very hard to reveal stinging comments about "Ken & Barbies," "gym rats & strippers," "uberhots & posers" etc., etc. Most of the time, the only "crime" these people have committed is to be born with good genes or to spend a few hours a week caring for their health and appearance. Human nature being what it is, being "attractive" doesn't guarantee anybody a cakewalk into the lifestyle. Middle-aged men tend to be uncomfortable around other men who have more money or bigger dicks, while middle-aged women tend to be uncomfortable around younger women and those who have flatter tummies and/or perkier tits. "Discomfort runs downhiill, hostility runs uphill" Whichever way they run, there's enough of both to go around.

As for the younger, more attractive couples that choose not to play in certain clubs, George Carlin was right...there IS such a thing as being "too hip for the room"...and they're not reacting any differently than any of us would in similar circumstances