Wow, we're pretty new at this too, and one of our first experiences was very similar. Truthfully, I think the other couple backed off a bit because they wanted us to develop a circle of playmates and prevent an inappropriate attachment. I completely understand their actions. We were lucky enough to find another couple we were compatible with on many levels, and well, the friendship actually took off as well - it brought on a lot of emotion, and perhaps might have gotten a little too intense. Sometimes I wonder if it might have been a little less complicated to just have great sex the first time around, but then again, I know the friendship helped ease us into the sex - don't know that it would have happened if they hadn't made us feel so comfortable! We are still friends, but the intensity has diminished - it needed to do so. I think that my husband and I need to get a little more acclimated to the "playing" aspect of the lifestyle, and when we do, I suspect we will see more of this couple. And I really do respect that they backed away when they did - it's allowing us some time to adjust and think about how this is affecting us as a couple. I think that's really important to do when you're first getting started and I hope you can do the same!
Hope this helps you!
Ms. L
(Boy, once you get past that first post, it gets a whole lot easier!!!!)
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