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Anyhow, here we are, rules are broken, there nothing I can do about, it, I didn't come up with the rule, he did, I didn't break the rules, he did
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in your heart do you know exactly why he instituted this rule? Not what he says but what his motivations were? What negative outcome did he forsee if he were to cum in anothers mouth? I believe the answer to this question holds the solution to the majority of the issues here. If he wanted this rule for his own personal deep emotional reasons then there is no way he would have even come close to crossing the line, however if he decided on this particular rule to perhaps help put your mind at ease or satisify your hesitations about him being with another woman then that is a problem.......... here it is called "taking one for the team" and history on this board will show that "taking one for the team" will destroy almost anything good!!! and thus the line becomes a little fuzzy because it wasnt really something he wanted it was a bone he threw to you for your appeasment. I also get the feeling that the two of you were doing the same thing during the MFM play, only now the shoe is on the other foot and it hurts! Is it wrong???? In swinging YES, in the regular world? No, in fact i think it has some nice chivarous overtones, it shows he cares about your feelings and has concern for your well being however when introduced into the swinging atmosphere it takes on a diffrent persona and becomes harmful rather than a nice sweet gesture by the husband. That is where the communication comes in not just talking but communicating from the heart, deep down true blue feelings and how to help each other thru the rough times such as these. There is no I or U in team its a WE thing
Angedky(mr)