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Originally Posted by biblonde I have to agree with alot that has been said here but there are alot of red flags coming from you IMHO.
first you say you have been in the lifestyle for 3 years and this is your first "play" time. I see alot of security problems.
I dont see this as being a violation of trust. If this woman also knew your rules then she is partly to blame. Sorry dear but most men cant control when they cum. I have had some that barely start to fuck and then are done just as quick as that and believe me they really dont want to finish that fast. You may not like this but I think you WAY over reacted in this situation. I really dont think you belong in the lifestyle if something like this is going to throw you over the deep end.
Could this be just an excuse for you to get out all together without saying you cant handle it...kinda like shoving the blame on him so he feels so guilty that it doesnt ever happen again???? This is the way I am reading all your posts. And no that doesnt make you a bad person, hey this lifestyle isnt for everyone. Some people get into it and love it some cant stand it or cant handle it.
I really think you need to talk truthfully to your hubby. I think right about now he feels lower than dirt and I truthfully dont think that is fair.
It sounded like he really tried to pull out and mostly did...she went back he didnt force her to do anything. There are going to be mishaps from BOTH you if you remain in the lifestyle..
hey we are all human and make mistakes...if a tiny one like this has caused you so much pain maybe you should not be in the lifestyle.
It really isnt worth breaking up your marrage over or hurt feelings and resentment. |
Really well said Biblonde!
Pacpl, I think you've got your swinging style under such incredible tension that it can't help but break.
Step back and re-examine what you're doing and why. If you can't let go of something like this I think that your resentment for any issue is just going to compound itself until your relationship with your husband explodes.
Is that something you want to risk?