[EvilMJ]

I have a feeling I am going to be unpopular with this post but here it goes.

Do you think perhaps you are being unreasonable with you rules? Personally I don't think I could enjoy myself (especially if I was the man), knowing that I have to control where and when I have an orgasm. Sure I can see maybe not cumming in someone’s mouth (especially if it is her request) but it seems awful restrictive to me, and sometime accidents are going to happen. I think you need to lighten up a bit on the poor guy.

He knew made a mistake and his first reaction is to say he didn’t cum, you know what, I think sometimes we say stuff in hopes to get ourselves out of the hole we just dug ourselves into, not to hurt the ones we love. Then he owned up on it and apologized. So you have a choice here, you can sit here and hold a grudge over something that he already apologized for, or you can forgive him and chalk it up to experience and move on by discussing how to handle a situation like this in the future.

Did the other couple know of your rules? If you were clear on this then I think you need to decide if you want to continue playing with a couple that doesn’t respect your boundaries. You also have the responsibility to say to them when something is bothering you, no mean no and I know from personal experience that if you tell someone not to do something it is not automatically going to ruin the mood. In fact I have received an honest “sorry about that” and we continued on with having fun. So don’t feel you have to be quiet in order to keep from ruin everyone’s fun, I think in the long run it is better if you say something at the time rather than hold it in when it is too late to do anything.

I agree with txduo2000 when they say that it was likely that his intent was not to hurt you or to break a rule, in the heat of the moment we can sometimes do things we shouldn’t do. Unfortunately this happened with him.

I think you need to decide if Swinging is really right for you, because if this accident is causing you such heartache and pain, then I am not sure you are cut out for this. Trust me, my hubby has made a few mistakes along the way, so have I, but we forgave each other and learned from them. Ultimately that is what you have to do too if is swinging is going to work for you.