[txduo2000]

Well, one thing that you are going to learn as time goes by and as your experiences increase, rules DO need to be respected and followed but some of them might just slip by in the heat of the moment. The broken rules are not planned in advanced, maybe not even anticipated. And the only way to work past the hurt gotten from a broken rule is to genuinely and honestly talk to each other about it.

Now, the way you described the scenario, her face was 5 inches from his dick and his cumload was not in her mouth? Am I right? Because if so, then he didn't break your rule, if your rule was no cumming in mouths or any other body cavity. The way you described the scenario, he was about to cum and she took her mouth off his dick. Then you went on to describe that she went back down on him. Now, for us, if we had your rule, the way you explained it, that rule would not have been broken in that act and the reason being that he didn't come in her mouth. She stopped, he came, she began again. Now if you would have preferred that he clean up the cum before she went back down, was that stated?

And I am not sure that he "forgot" that you were there. It is very arousing for many of us to hear our partner in the throes of passion with another. Yes, he can hear through a thigh. Not sure what the angle was where you were all situated, but was there a possibility that he could have gotten a glimpse or two through his peripheral vision?

The thing is, no matter how well you know a person, you have no idea actually what goes on in their mind, and subsequently, you don't know what AT THAT MOMENT will be most arousing to that person. Being that this was your first full swap, there's a great deal of intensity involved in that. Not only the sights and sounds, but the imaginations and visions in one's head as the process is playing itself out. For some, it's a sensory overload ... You can't blame him for his level of arousal getting out of control, and there's a big difference in actually cumming inside someone's mouth or pussy and pulling it out til the orgasm is over then re-inserting.

Sometimes rules are made and they don't anticipate all eventualities. So a little understanding has to come into play when that happens.

Do you think he INTENTIONALLY broke this rule with the purpose to HURT you? I don't. He apologized, right? Did you feel like he was sincere?

That's all that really matters, in my opinion. Yes, rules need to be followed to the best of everyone's ability. They need to be respected from all points of view. But we are human beings, not infallible and mistakes and mishaps will happen. Going into this, you have to be aware of that. You have to keep perspective on all situations and try not to overanalyze them and look for things that might not be there after all.