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Originally Posted by Spoomonkey I agree with this 100%.
The immediate value of a discussion board is the discussion of an issue - the give and take of ideas and the balance of opinion. The enduring value of the discussion is the record of thought that is left for folks to use in developing their approach (or whether or not they will approach) something.
The problem with the type of board that you are proposing is this:
It would be a completely useless resource.
The statement, "I like skydiving" is interesting, but provokes no thought.
Many folks responding with "me too" would frankly be a waste of band width.
A response of, "I'm glad you do, but here is why I do not" can be the start of an interesting discussion. The risk, of course, is that someone (more often than not the guy who likes skydiving) is going to get his feelings hurt. But, the reward is that information and points of view from a variety of angles can be shared which will allow everyone to re-evaluate their thoughts.
Some people have very serious concerns about STDs (because a couple of them can kill you, according to legend) so any discussion about swinging without condoms might elicit a response or two. This exchange of information will help inform people about the risks and also cut through some of the hype surrounding STDs.
As someone who used to be a newbie, I can tell you, hearing the different positions is much more helpful in helping me evaluate my personal approach to the lifestyle than it would be if this board were simply a sort of country club where everyone received a blanket "atta'boy" regardless of what they chose to do.
I certainly respect the thought that you have put into your choices as well as the struggle that you apparently have with latex allergy - like Danny said above, you're choices do not affect me. It would certainly be a play barrier, as we are "condom only". We all have our boundaries and the lifestyle works best when we all respect those boundaries.
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A free exchange of ideas in any forum is what forums are all about, but, only where appropriate. The individual who posts about his or her love of skydiving is looking for people who share that feeling for an exchange of experiences and, perhaps, a continuing association based on mutual interests. Those who find it a dangerous activity can start their own thread on the dangers of skydiving, not interject their opinion to that effect where it is inappropriate.
We had what we thought was an interesting topic, whether there was an emphasis on safe sex because of the activity rather than the actual statisitical threat. We posted it under "What is safe sex ?" . Julie rightly pointed out in responding to another post that it had steered the discussion away from the actual point of the thread. We apoligized for that because she was absolutely right. We should have started a separate thread specifically on that topic.
We think whatever decision you have reached regarding safe sex is the right one, regardless of what it is. We have no arguement with you on that score. Our post was simply a pointed reminder that everyone should extend that same courtesy to others.