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JB_KitKat · 11-26-2002, 06:02 PM

Just need to find out if others out there fake it or not. My guy (I am his wife) and I have been together for 13 years and during that time have absolutely incredible sex. We are both sexually compatible and like it the same frequency (about 4-5 times a week). We have a bond that is so strong. A lot of the bond is from our intimacy of our incredible sex life. Sex is a very high priority for both of us. I love to watch his face, body, everything - while he is cumming inside of me. I feel that makes us even closer, everytime we have sex. Our sext usually ends with an "I love you sooooo much" type of talk.

Well we were talking about orgasims and fake orgasims. I asked him if he ever faked it (now if I had 20/20 hind site I would never have asked him that - but it was something that just came up - no big conversation going on or anything - just casual talk -which most of our talk is about sex). He said yes, a couple of times a year. And he has since we have been together. That was like a slap in the face. It hit me hard and I am still troubled by it. Not that I feel our relationship will end over it or anything that harsh. I am having a hard time getting past it.

We all have 'off' times when we might want to cum but can't - I know I do. I am 40 years old and I have never faked an orgasm. If I can't cum then I just say so and move on (which happens maybe 3-4 times a year). I still enjoy sex anyway. He said he faked it because he didn't want me to feel that I didn't turn him on enough - to give him some credit here I do have some confidence problems from time to time.

But my problem is that I think of that face-to-face time when he is inside of him and how I just love to watch him cum, I can't help but wonder, was that just an act? Now I wonder when we have sex, when he is cumming, is this one an act? is it fake? So sex has not been the same since I found out about the fake act. He says that it was only 2-3 times a year (that would be 35-30 fake times since we been together). I feel that if we can't be real with each other, then who can we be real with? I wonder what is real? I also feel like a fool for loving that moment so much when it might have been fake. It feels like such a lie during the time a couple is so intimate.

I know I'll get over this, I love him so much, but I have to ask - how many of you guys fake orgasims? And why?

11-26-2002, 06:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
JB_KitKat Registered Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 5 Location: New Orleans	Fake Orgasms - by the Guy! Just need to find out if others out there fake it or not. My guy (I am his wife) and I have been together for 13 years and during that time have absolutely incredible sex. We are both sexually compatible and like it the same frequency (about 4-5 times a week). We have a bond that is so strong. A lot of the bond is from our intimacy of our incredible sex life. Sex is a very high priority for both of us. I love to watch his face, body, everything - while he is cumming inside of me. I feel that makes us even closer, everytime we have sex. Our sext usually ends with an "I love you sooooo much" type of talk. Well we were talking about orgasims and fake orgasims. I asked him if he ever faked it (now if I had 20/20 hind site I would never have asked him that - but it was something that just came up - no big conversation going on or anything - just casual talk -which most of our talk is about sex). He said yes, a couple of times a year. And he has since we have been together. That was like a slap in the face. It hit me hard and I am still troubled by it. Not that I feel our relationship will end over it or anything that harsh. I am having a hard time getting past it. We all have 'off' times when we might want to cum but can't - I know I do. I am 40 years old and I have never faked an orgasm. If I can't cum then I just say so and move on (which happens maybe 3-4 times a year). I still enjoy sex anyway. He said he faked it because he didn't want me to feel that I didn't turn him on enough - to give him some credit here I do have some confidence problems from time to time. But my problem is that I think of that face-to-face time when he is inside of him and how I just love to watch him cum, I can't help but wonder, was that just an act? Now I wonder when we have sex, when he is cumming, is this one an act? is it fake? So sex has not been the same since I found out about the fake act. He says that it was only 2-3 times a year (that would be 35-30 fake times since we been together). I feel that if we can't be real with each other, then who can we be real with? I wonder what is real? I also feel like a fool for loving that moment so much when it might have been fake. It feels like such a lie during the time a couple is so intimate. I know I'll get over this, I love him so much, but I have to ask - how many of you guys fake orgasims? And why?