[JustAskJulie]

I think it comes down to what the people involved want (as a couple). Since when does the male spend his money or since when it his decision even if his wife goes out and gets a perm, hair color, etc. Those are things most women do for themselves. Same most often goes on botox, plastic surgery, etc. Perhaps it is more that men are more comfortable and have less of a body image issue than most females do. Maybe, even, the wives of these couples are quite happy with their man just the way he is and see no need for "improvement" when it comes to hiim.

I think it's an issue in our society that women are pressured into having to look like a magazine cover, never grow old, etc. IMO, what we end up with is a lot of women who look like they've had a facelift, or can't make normal facial expressions because they've had botox, have breasts that look hard and ugly because they've had boob jobs. Not all "improvements" really lead to improvement.

I would hope that everyone would attempt to take care of themsleves, for their own sake. That people would shower regularly, trim/remove the unwanted hair, etc. But, most of all I would hope that they are doing these things for themselves and not because they are worried about what they will look like to society.