 Re: Problem at the club
Gee, sorry if I touched a sore spot of anyone. All I was saying was that if you get 'close' to couples you have sex with,feelings can happen. And no we never plan on 1nighters but if you have any experience at all swinging then you have been with couples one time and thats enough to know that you don't want them again.But if you decide to meet again over and over then you and they made that decision,why? Because,at least 1 of the 4 liked the experience,is that not correct? It doesn't mean love,I didn't say either of 'us' felt love but it had to be something similiar to sexual gratification,and a possible list of desires that would be to long to list! Look, you are meeting other couples because you want something extra,call it what you want but if you enjoy sex with other people and you have decided to swing then thats my point,you enjoy others and you made a concious decision to have sex and it is extra-marital,so to speak. I just simply don't buy the swinging idea that it is sexual gratification only,you have that with your spouse don't you? If not then doesn't that mean that there is something missing and you are trying to find it in sex with others,even if your spouse is there? Yes you are,else why swing? Not talking love here but if you have a desire to swing and you are married then you are similiar,in ways,to the 'hubby' of the couple that developed feelings for my wife! Really I didn't worry because I feel secure with her but we did break it off with them.And no I'm not finding fault here,I enjoy the excitement of another womans body and romance but I think we should ALL admit this,,,,,we love our spouse BUT, we want others.Go ahead, set me straight,tell me i'm wrong. :rollseyes |