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My fear would be if something wasn't going well for her, and I wasn't there. She's capable of handling herself pretty well, but I wouldn't want that to happen. An experience like that would also probably be the end of swinging altogether.
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That is a very legitimate concern, and a large reason why I think "friends with benefits" and doing our own seperate thing in that manner is a very bad idea.
Two things which I hope make this safer 1) I want to know the couple we are with pretty well beforehand and 2) We will be within yelling distance if need be.
I think there is a low probability of this actually occuring (and from reading around it sounds like respect is very high within this community), but it's best to be as safe as possible.
Adjoining rooms seems fine to me... hell, even opposite sides of a couch could work I guess
This is definitely something we need to talk about more.
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I don't think it's necessarily viewed negatively, just different strokes for different folks. Personally, we can't relate to those who prefer separate because it's something we would not do, so it's hard to understand what they like about it. Conversely, the same might be said for them with regard to our preferences.
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That is good to hear. I fully expect our tastes and desires to evolve over time but so often it seems the answer is simply to be open and honest with each other, the couple you are with and just as importantly -- all need to be having fun
I hope to read more comments and thoughts!