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biblonde · 10-14-2005, 02:29 PM

I just noticed this thread and all I can say is wow....first off I do have to say you are looking into the lifestyle for the WRONG reasons...you are trying to find out if he is a looser or not??? after only 5 months you should be exploring each other not looking to venture out. As someone who has been in the lifestyle for a while now we would turn you down in a heartbeat. What I see here is alot of games being played. You say you are getting older and dont want to waste your time...dear you are 24 years old...still wet behind the ears IMHO. I dont mean to sound harsh but what you said about "R" to me is really offensive. If hubby said he wanted to join because he wanted to find out if I was a looser, or jelous type he would be out the door on his ass. You really dont sound like you are really trying to work on your relationship but only trying to find out just how popular you could be and how many want to get you naked. More like an ego boost instead of inhancing your relationship which is really what the lifestyle is about. playing the "look at me" game at someone elses expence is really "highschoolish" and will be looked upon poorly by others. I suggest you back out of the ego boost mode and work on your relationship if that is truely your main goal here. give it some time between the two of you and find out the old fashon way if he is a "looser" or not. time is the only thing that will tell that. YES we all like attention but to pull unsuspecting couples into your game is just wrong. Unless you tell them upfront....you are into this because you are trying to find out if he is a jelous ass. in which case most couples will run as fast as they can. and again sorry for sounding so harsh but that is how I see it...take it or leave it!

10-14-2005, 02:29 PM	#12 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curious1918	Re: Help Cool her Jets...Please! I just noticed this thread and all I can say is wow....first off I do have to say you are looking into the lifestyle for the WRONG reasons...you are trying to find out if he is a looser or not??? after only 5 months you should be exploring each other not looking to venture out. As someone who has been in the lifestyle for a while now we would turn you down in a heartbeat. What I see here is alot of games being played. You say you are getting older and dont want to waste your time...dear you are 24 years old...still wet behind the ears IMHO. I dont mean to sound harsh but what you said about "R" to me is really offensive. If hubby said he wanted to join because he wanted to find out if I was a looser, or jelous type he would be out the door on his ass. You really dont sound like you are really trying to work on your relationship but only trying to find out just how popular you could be and how many want to get you naked. More like an ego boost instead of inhancing your relationship which is really what the lifestyle is about. playing the "look at me" game at someone elses expence is really "highschoolish" and will be looked upon poorly by others. I suggest you back out of the ego boost mode and work on your relationship if that is truely your main goal here. give it some time between the two of you and find out the old fashon way if he is a "looser" or not. time is the only thing that will tell that. YES we all like attention but to pull unsuspecting couples into your game is just wrong. Unless you tell them upfront....you are into this because you are trying to find out if he is a jelous ass. in which case most couples will run as fast as they can. and again sorry for sounding so harsh but that is how I see it...take it or leave it!